Bitten By the Boudoir Bug: Why Intimate Shoots Are Addictive
Some things are like fine wine. They get better with time.
Boudoir shoots fall in that elusive category of life’s pleasures. When you step into my studio for the first time, I might detect some hesitance in you. I see your inner light, but sometimes you are neither aware of its brilliance nor are you ready to let it stream forth and dazzle the world. You need some coaxing. And don’t worry; I am a pro at soothing those nerves and putting you in the mood for fun.
And then the shots begin to sizzle. You have a glass of champagne maybe two, your make-up and hair look incredible, your’ve made it this far, and it’s time to shine! We experiment angels, I tell you what to do, where to look, and how to pose.I show you a couple photos, your jaw drops, and you look at me and say, omg he is going to die. This is the turning point, the beautiful moment where you can see yourself through a different lens, and well, you really like it! In fact, you love it! My encouragements coupled with the camera’s stark, unbiased appraisal of your beauty imbue you with confidence.
You GET it!
There is absolutely no one around to judge you or the session.
And you pour your heart, soul and passion into the process.
The first stage is what I call “Discovering your Inner Sass”. We are told repeatedly, that exhibitionism and vanity are sins. And we end up forgetting to cherish our own bodies and appreciate our feminine charms. The intimate ambience of a boudoir shoot is the right place to step out of the cocoon of self-oblivion and embrace the fire, passion, sheer gorgeousness and desire that we all possess and should never be ashamed of owning. A woman who has discovered her inner sass is now confident of her own place in the world. She understands that she has power over her own life and what others tag the “truth” or a “standard” is nothing but false consensus. This is the start of blooming. And it is awe inspiring to witness.
The next stage is “I Have Fantasies”. As the session peaks, the boldness speaks. The lady in front of the camera is no longer coming to terms with her own beauty. She is past that phase. She is now eager for a taste of the wilderness beyond. She wants to be the femme fatale her parents condemned when she was young. She wants to be polyamorous. She wants to dive deep into fetishes. She starts channeling her inner desires, giving voice to parts of her personality she had buried deep inside. This is cathartic. It is what psychologists call shadow work. But instead of sitting zoned out, trying to do it mentally, she has amazing snaps to show the world. And declare her freedom.
The last stage is “The Glow of Peace”. Women no longer look to prove a point. They simply enjoy the flow of the shoot. They know that I am capturing gems in frames they will cherish forever. They don’t want to tuck in their tummies or feel conscious of love handles. They are queens of their own realm. And happiness is evident in each line of their body.
When you walk out of a boudoir session, you carry the positivity around with you for weeks.
And whenever there is a new high scaled or a new milestone achieved, the mind and heart automatically gravitate towards the freedom, peace and abandon that laid the foundation of being joyous.
Some women visit spas. Some women have boudoir shoots. It is a celebration – a therapeutic celebration of life and self-love.
In lieu of this article, I decided it’s been some time since I stepped in front of the camera to celebrate my own body, so I dusted off my tripod, set up the scene, stripped down and stepped into the light. Now I just turned 37 years young, and just like many of you, I go through the same obnoxious conversations with my body. After so many years of doing this, and seeing the transformation of my clients how could I not believe the truth before my eyes. The more you celebrate the body god gave you, and love it, really fucking love it, the more confident you become, and the more you shine.
Furthermore, more nudy judy photos to come!!