Why It’s Ok to Be Exactly Who You Are

February 28, 2014

classy or nasty

Boudoir State of Mind: Classy or Nasty – Why It’s Okay to Be Exactly Who You Are.  So many times they try to label us.

As women, we get grouped into broad categories: Some generic and placid, others hurtful. As we grow older, we tend to embrace these labels as part of our identities.  We begin to associate our sense of self with whatever others think.

As a result:

  • The “pretty girl” may miss out on career opportunities like higher education and job promotions because people assume she
    is less intelligent, and she believes them.
  • The “nerdy girl” may spend her Friday nights alone because she feels it would be too difficult to let loose, even though she wants to.
  • The “bold girl” will face problems with authority because she isn’t ashamed to speak her mind.
  • The “shy girl” will keep quiet because she feels that no one wants to hear what she has to say.
  • The “classy girl” won’t buy the eight inch red stilettos she wants.
  • The “nasty girl” won’t apply for the job she dreams of because her friends will think she’s sold out.

These labels inhibit us from being the women we were intended to be.

You are not a single thing, one label with one purpose; you are an individual full of glorious nuances and complexity so unique that no one else in history has shared it. Sure, we may be similar to others in some regard, but who’s to say that because we have a certain trait we shouldn’t be allowed to do the things that make us feel alive?

Don’t let the world box you into a bipolar set of categories; just because you may be or do one thing doesn’t mean you can’t be or do another thing.

We live in a world where most people are walking around half dead, conditioned to think a certain way and live a life they don’t control. It’s so easy to get sucked in, especially if you have negative people telling you what you can and can’t do with your life. It’s hard to see clearly sometimes and I’m here to tell you to trust your life, not your script. Fuck the script.

The scrip that someone else might have written for you, the one you don’t like, the one that makes you feel powerless: You have the power and  the ability to be whoever you want to be. Let loose, take chances and surprise yourself.

Instead of falling victim to the labels, just be yourself, and you would be amazed not only how much freer you will feel, but how well you’ll be able to connect with other free people who live beyond the labels — the people who can be classy, nasty, beautiful, relaxed, carefree and hardworking, full of passions, full of dreams, and above all full of life.

Happy Friday! Have a weekend that adds a new pep to your step!

XX, Marisa

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