How to Develop a Positive Self-Image

February 26, 2014

Boudoir State of Mind: Body Talk – How to Build a Positive Self-Image

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserves your love and affection.” – Buddha

Do you have any idea how absolutely incredible you are, how unique and beautiful and capable you are?

For most of us, taking compliments like these is difficult. We think, “Me? How am I special? What makes me unique? And I may be pretty, but beautiful, no, I don’t think so.” Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

Do you remember when you were a little girl and someone complimented you on your new dress, you not only believed them but you said thank you and felt like the most beautiful thing in the room?

What happened to that self-confidence, that belief that you are someone special? For many of us, we grew up. We were thrust into social circumstances where, instead of people being positive to each other, they were mean, sometimes to our faces and, more commonly, behind our backs. We would stay up late picking out an amazing outfit for the next day, only to have the “popular” girl make fun of it. Or we would work for days on a school project, only to get tongue-tied when we presented it to the class.

These experiences at home, at school and hanging out with friends came to shape our self-image.

If we get burned, we typically try to avoid putting ourselves in that situation again. Bad public speaking experiences as a child lead to full-on phobias as an adult. Embarrassing social situations while we’re young turn into social anxieties as we get older. And if we have insecure parents, those same insecurities will amplify in us, and the cycle will continue. But what if I told you there was a way to let go of these experiences and begin to develop a positive self-image? Would you set yourself free and give it a try?

Write down the things you’re most insecure about, and think about what has made you insecure about them. This is undoubtedly the most difficult part of the process, as most of us don’t want to revisit these circumstances.

For example, a friend of mine was always incredibly insecure about her ears.

They were a bit larger in size and weren’t flush against the sides of her head, like she figured “normal” ears were supposed to be, so she always wore her hair down or wore a hat so no one could see her ears.  One day, she forgot her hat and needed to wear her hair up to work on a project, and someone told her how nice she looked with her hair that way. She froze. And she didn’t believe it at first. A few days later, she tried it again and another person complimented her as well, said that the look brightened up her face. They didn’t say a thing about her ears.

The truth was this little insecurity was something that only she saw and was caused by something that happened when she was in middle school; a group of mean girls had made fun of her and called her “Yoda” for an entire semester. The sad thing was the girls had done this only because they were jealous of the girl and were looking for a way to bring her down, and it had worked. Everybody we meet on this planet is fighting their own battle.

They deal consistently with raging insecurities and personal issues that they keep inside of themselves, letting no one see. Many times, the hurtful and seemingly selfish things they say to us that insult us and sometimes stay with us for the rest of our lives, have absolutely nothing to do with us. We get hurt and we hurt others, and the cycle continues.

But it doesn’t have to. Once we take the first step to realizing that the insecurities we face, although perfectly real to us, don’t have to remain with us. We can stand up to them and replace them with more positive ones. We can take the terrifying leap of faith and just believe in ourselves for once.

Start to tell yourself every day. Look in the mirror and into your own eyes and tell yourself that you are incredible, unique, beautiful and absolutely capable of achieving whatever it is you intend to do. The harmful words of others, formed by their own insecurities, cannot harm you.

You can rise above them and be the person you were meant to be.

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