Month: February, 2014
Can a Boudoir Shoot Change your life?
I’m a big believer that intimate photography can make you the most desired woman on the planet
So many people think of boudoir photography and immediately say “oh that’s not for me” without giving it much of a chance.
They think that they have to have a certain “look” or some sort of modeling experience to look outstanding in lingerie. I’m here to tell you that this couldn’t be further from the truth. You, yes, I’m talking to you, can look sexy and incredible in boudoir photos, too. Really. I mean it.
Right now you’re reading this and feeling skeptical, but I promise you it’s true. My boudoir clients aren’t supermodels, they are women just like you and me, with real bodies, curves and unique figures. Some of them are even mothers.
Intimate photography is designed to feature you at your very best. Most women will look at their finished intimate photos and say, “Oh, my god is that really me?” They just can’t believe how good they look. Sex appeal in this day and age is based almost entirely on confidence.
And even if you don’t feel confident going into a session, you will leave feeling confident, and your photos will be proof of that transformation. It’s a chance for you to shine, an opportunity to just let go and be the extraordinary and worthy woman that you are.
Your value is not tied to your dress size, and desirability has nothing to do with the things we think it does, but even so, your intimate photos will make you the most desired woman on the planet.
When you see yourself in this new light, you will begin to feel like you are deserving of desire, that you are worth it. When you let yourself open up to that experience, you have no idea what possibilities will yet await you.
Doesn’t that sound exciting?
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After Hours – What You Do in Your Spare Time Determines Your Future
Let’s talk a bit about character.
A person’s character shapes his or her life, affects relationships and impacts personality.
The term typically comes full of complex moral and social implications. Things like:
- Moral Goodness
- Levels of Determination
Things by which people will put you on a spectrum and calculate your reputation.
In the centuries leading up to the modern era, a person who had good character was respected and admired by the community, and a person seen to have bad character was shunned by the community.
Fortunately, in recent decades the lines, with good reason, have become blurred between what defines good character and what qualifies as bad character.
Now what does this have to do with boudoir photography? Hear me out.
Essentially, reputation is based upon what the public sees. Character is based on what you see, do and experience. People who have become successful are not successful because their reputation made it possible, but because one aspect of their character, regardless of whether this person was deemed good or bad in the public eye, made it possible. This aspect is their level of commitment.
The question is if you really want something, how far are you willing to go in order to achieve it? What hardships will you endure? What sort of things would you sacrifice? How much time will you spend after hours, instead of watching Netflix, working on making your dreams a reality?
Character is ultimately defined by what you do when you think nobody else is looking.
What does your character say about you? Does it say that you are willing and capable to achieve the very thing your heart craves, or does it say someday, maybe?
My heart says, “Sure keep working; it’s only been 12 hours and it’s 1:00 am. Marisa, you’re on a mission to inspire and conquer the world, silly. You can’t stop — ever.”
I’ve been a little introverted lately, but it’s all good. Shit is getting done, and I am loving it.
I’ve been addicted to several podcasts and I’ve come to the conclusion I have to do my own. Yep, I’m starting a podcast and it’s going to be legendary! No, no, I’m not giving away what I’m doing yet, so you’ll just have to wait and see.
Just in case you are interested in spending your spare time with some new podcasts that could change your life, check out smart passive income with Pat Flynn.
It’s an amazing place to learn how to create a small empire.
The name of the game is work hard now and enjoy the benefits later.
Learn about creating the life you want, talking about what you love.
Anything is possible, right?
I’ve never been so inspired in my whole life, and I’ve learned so much in the last year.
I’m making 2014 my year!
How about you?
Public Relations – The Most Difficult Part of any Photography Business
It’s impossible to operate a successful photography business in a vacuum. In order to not only survive but thrive in the industry, you need a key component: People.
And I’m not just talking about clients, although this group is arguably the most important. There are various professional groups, schools, organizations and firms that you’ll want to contact if you want to see your business really reach the higher echelons of the industry.
Hiring a PR Firm vs Doing it Yourself
Some people are graced with enervating people skills. They can effortlessly electrify a room full of people in ways that make many of us shake our heads in wonderment.
The 21st century seems to have brought on the era of the “rock star photographer” in a way that hasn’t been seen before, and for those people, well, good for them.
What it comes down to is, yes, you can do your own PR, but before you bite off more than you can chew, you need to have a little chat with yourself.
Are you really qualified to do your own PR? Do you know what and who you might be up against? Do you even know where to begin?
If you’ve answered yes to two of the three questions, then you may have a chance, because some well informed research will help you with the third category.
If you answered no to two or all of these questions, you need a PR person or firm.
It doesn’t necessarily have to be someone who can move mountains, just a team who can get you on the right track.
Press Releases and Photography Speaking Engagements
You need to remember three things: Exposure, Exposure, Exposure.
Do whatever it takes to get your name out there, and get your work seen by as many people as possible.
Hire a freelance writer (if you’re not qualified to do it yourself) to draft up monthly press releases to submit to various news outlets and to write articles to be published on online magazines.
Develop a reputation for being an authority in your field, and when the opportunity comes for you to share your information at a seminar, conference, or local panel, jump at the opportunity.
Exposure through Charity Work
One of the best ways to get your name out locally is to do photographic work for charity. This not only looks great on your résumé, but it give you to chance to network and connect with people in your community, people who will give you more business.
I enjoy public speaking as much as I enjoy my monthly trip to my waxing lady. I can’t stand the sound of my voice and I hate watching myself on video, but I’ve been practicing and it’s slowly getting better. Mirror work is about the best advice I could give for learning what funny little quirks you have.
Toastmaster International also is a great resource to help you overcome your fears of public speaking.
What is Your Story?
Search the web for interesting stories in your field and look deeper into what makes a great story. Think about how you can spin your brand into a engaging story.
Reporters don’t make up stories or go out and find them. Great stories find them. With that said, find a way to sell your story, have a well written article composed and then have a professional pitch the story.
It Comes Down to Relationships
PR people have established relationships and that is what you are paying for.
To get in front of the people that you want like editors, reporters, and magazines, you are more likely to get there through rooted relationships.
People like to do business with people they know and you are going to pay pretty prices to get your work out there. PR is not cheap, so before you take the leap, I would suggest doing research, asking for references, knowing your brand inside and out, and having a fascinating story to sell.
Boudoir State of Mind – Why It’s Okay to Ask for Help
Lovely ladies of the world, play along with me for one second.
Go ahead. It’s okay. Just do it.
Whether you actually did or not is irrelevant, because at some point in your life you have been pinched. You know that being pinched hurts. It’s not the kind of hurt that leaves a lasting impression, but for that split second it’s painful and you want it to stop.
But let’s take it a step further. Let’s say you got your hand stuck in a door. Fortunately, you didn’t break anything, but the discomfort is growing and you would like it to stop. The problem? The door is locked and you don’t have the key.
Now, you could potentially use logic to get out of this situation.
Maybe you carry a lock pick with you or a crowbar or some other extraction device in your handy knapsack. You wise sage, you! You don’t need anybody else!
But for the rest of us, you know, normal humans, in this situation it would be perfectly reasonable to take out our cell phones and call for help.
“Please, building manager, can you come unlock this door before my thumb falls off. Please and thank you.”
And the manager would come right over and fix the problem, and you would be extremely embarrassed for a little while, but your thumb would be free and the pain would be over, and you could go buy a pint of ice cream to handle your trauma.
Now here’s what gets me.
Why do women see it as perfectly normal to ask for help when we are in physical pain (well most of us, but this is a post for another day), but feel incredibly ashamed to ask for help in times when we’re in emotional duress?
Marisa, this is because we are independent! We don’t need shoulders to cry on! We can pull ourselves up and plaster on a smile and are perfectly fine!
Sure you can, but is that really good for you? Isn’t that becoming difficult?
Odds are the reason why many of us choose to go our journey’s alone and fight our own battles alone is because we have been deeply hurt by someone at a time when we were vulnerable.
This vulnerability we decided was a bad thing. It left us too exposed. Slowly we built up walls and put on armor to keep people from reaching that soft core of us again. To let people in would be too risky.
This truth is a terrible burden for you to bear on your own.
And of course, you can continue in this way, slowly turning to stone and blocking out the beauty that you may experience along with the pain you might experience. But that is a choice. You don’t have to live your life this way.
It’s okay to ask for help, to seek the wisdom of a stranger who could become a friend, to unload some of the burden that you’ve been carrying around for most of your life because you don’t need to carry that weight anymore. You deserve to be free.
The only person stopping you is you.
It will be difficult at first, but in time it will get easier. And you’ll find, like the relief after no longer having your thumb stuck in the door, the pain will lessen with time. It might even heal completely.
Shine bright and let in the light! Open yourself to the unknown and the scary. Do something different today. Take a different way home. Get something different for lunch.
Tell someone how you feel and that you want to take control of your emotions.
Change starts with baby steps.
Practice Practice Practice!!
“For the things we have to learn before we can do them, we learn by doing them.” – Aristotle
The Winter Olympics are going on right now, and whether or not you agree with the political issues currently surrounding it, it is happening and it’s all anyone can talk about.
For me, the events themselves aren’t very significant, but the athletes definitely are. I watch them perform with such effortless style and grace, some better than others, and it completely floors me. I find myself uplifted, mesmerized, inspired by the fluidity of their movements.
My whole life, I’ve been fascinated by the unique abilities of the human body, the way it can conquer mountains and plumb the deepest depths of the sea or stretch into the most complicated of yoga poses.
Seeing these people achieve these magnificent heights doesn’t make me feel jealous; it inspires and challenges me to see how far I can go.
So, with all this food for thought, it got me to thinking further. The world of photography is not so different from the world of sports. Well, in form and ability it is, but not in one fundamental aspect: The more you practice, the better you will be.
For many of you, this isn’t news. You know that to master a new skill you have to work at it, and it requires years of patient determination to reach new levels of capacity. If this is you, good for you, you’re one of the minority.
But there are countless others who think that just because they’ve bought a flashy new camera that they can go out and conquer the world and become a famous professional photographer nearly overnight.
Sure, having a camera helps just like a snowboard bindings helps novice snowboarders stay on the board. Equipment, however, won’t make you world class. That takes time, training, and a word we all dread, experience.
But the quickest way to gain experience is simply to go out and shoot!
Test shoot and test shoot again. Try different lighting setups on different settings. Experiment with shade and color. Figure out how everything works, and how you can work with every environment.
You never want to be trying something new when you’re working with a paying client because there’s so much less freedom to fail. And when you’re getting started, you need to give yourself that freedom. You won’t know fully what does work until you’ve determined what doesn’t work. And trust me, a lot of things don’t work.
Start personal projects where you set the parameters and where it won’t hurt your business if things don’t work out. Find models looking to build their portfolios and work on something mutually beneficial. Ask your friends and family to help out. Challenge yourself to learn as much as you can, to gain experience working with people in an environment that doesn’t have any pressure.
And then when the clients do come, you’ll know what you’re doing, and that will fill them with confidence, and fill you with confidence, leading to more work.
Everybody who has mastered a craft, whether they are an Olympian, a civil engineer or a portrait photographer, has done so because they have practiced and practiced and then practiced some more.
I often do test shoots with some of my favorite agencies’ new faces department. It gives my work a fresh look, and I always love collaborating with new talent. You just never know who might fall in your lab.
This is a recent shoot with one of the beautiful models I’ve worked with!