Month: January, 2014
“I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing……Only I will remain.”
– Frank Herbert
We take our freedom for granted so often, don’t we? We can go where we want when we want to, say how we feel, do what we love to do. We know this, and yet surround ourselves with barriers, with reasons not to take the step out into the unknown. We don’t follow our bliss, because although the idea of adventure is exciting, actually taking the chance is terrifying. Living your life gripped by fear of the unknown is no way to live, but how to you make the transition?
Like in all things, it’s best to start small. People are fabulous at adjusting, it’s one of the more impressive traits of our species.
We can change and adapt to to our circumstances. For example, have you ever had a real terrible experience that lasted more than a few weeks, like an unfitting relationship or a frustrating job, and you look back and wonder just how you made it through? You made it because
a) you are stronger than you know and b) you adapted.
When it comes to making changes, making smaller adjustments over a longer period of time is the key to seeing them become part of your life. If you start too big, by taking on too much, you’ll become overwhelmed, and you’ll return to your old ways in no time (which is why so many New Years Resolutions ultimately fail.) If you’re on the cusp of being brave, and taking the leap into the unknown, even if it’s a little unknown, you are a girl on a ledge.
You can choose to turn around, return to where you came from, and never know what lies over the side, or you can choose to take the leap of faith, and begin to change your life for the better.
Let’s Talk a Bit About Bravery What do you think of when you think of bravery? Do you think of a soldier on a dangerous mission?
What about a single mother of two who has an upcoming interview at a new job? Or a bright girl with unsupportive parents who tries out for the high school basketball team? Contrary to what you might think, being brave comes in all shapes and sizes, and is subjective to each person. Sometimes, just getting out of bed in the morning is an act of bravery, and learning to recognize these small successes is incredibly important in this life journey. So many times, you are reminded of your limitations, of all the things that you can’t or shouldn’t do. Today I encourage you to yes, know your limitations, but at the same time, examine the your possibilities. Stop telling yourself that you can’t, sure there are some things you can’t do, and start thinking about all the things you can do.If this is you, if you’re the girl on the ledge, you have the choice to stay in the life you have now.
You can stay in the bad relationship or in the frustrating job or keep spending time with people who bring you down.
Or you can take a step off the side, examine all of your possibilities, and start to fly. Who knows, you might even soar. Here’s to the wild ones. The ones that follow their dreams. The ones that don’t take no for an answer. The ones that failed and didn’t stop. The ones that looked fear in the face and laughed. The ones that give it everything they got.
The ones that wake up every day and do it all over again!
“Yoga is not a religion. It is a science, science of well-being, science of youthfulness, science of integrating body, mind and soul.”
– Amit Ray
Believe it or not, doing something for just five minutes a day over the course of two weeks will create a habit. Habits, when performed over the course of many years, shape character, which means that if you do something for long enough, it will become a part of you, and it will change your life.
But whether you decide to do it every day for the rest of your life, or just when you need a boost, doing five minutes of yoga will put you in a positive mood.
If you feel stuck, low energy, or just generally grumpy, five minutes is all that it takes to put it right.
Here’s Why Unlike many other disciplines, yoga focuses on the mind-body connection, and aims to bring your entire being into balance. Contrary to what the media tells us, it is this balance which will bring us contentment, healing, and longevity.
Through movement and through control of the breath, in yoga we are tapping into our body’s receptors, bringing everything into alignment and peace.
And this doesn’t even include the act of meditation, which many find difficult to do (at first). Just the movement and the breath for five minutes can lift your spirits.
So if you’re feeling low, get out of your desk chair and find an open space, whether it’s your bedroom floor or a nearby park. Do a basic sun salute, a series of cat and cow, or something more advanced, it doesn’t matter, just let yourself expand with your breath, and re-center, finding the balance you’re craving.
I just downloaded this amazing app thedailyburn.com I can do yoga and different workouts wherever I am. This rocks because I am always on the go and sometimes I just have 15 minutes to get a workout in. They have 15 minutes classes to an hour! If you happen to check it out, let me know what you think.
Another perk about doing yoga is you get more flexible and you can do stuff like this!
Why not right! XX
Valentines day is coming, and for those of you that have a boudoir shoot coming up here are some fabulous boudoir preparation tips to help you day go a smooth as it can.
1. Do Bring Extra…Everything
You want to do this right, and every detail should be perfect. If you’re investing time and money into your boudoir session, the last thing you want is to have a rip in
your lace corset or a run in your stockings the day of your shoot. If you have a backup, you can switch, and save the session. Although artistically “distressed” articles can look good in a photo, for most of us, unseemly rips (especially in certain areas) are the last thing that we want.
Also, make sure to bring some makeup along with you, especially if you’re doing the process sans stylist or makeup artist. During the shoot, you’ll want to touch up the look so that you stay looking fresh and glamorous.
2. Do Spend Time Trying On and Testing Outfits
It’s no secret that our bodies change over time, we gain weight, we lose weight, we have children, we spend more time at the gym. Some things that used to look great on us just won’t anymore, and some things that we couldn’t quite fit into we will rock now. Also, clothes that have been in the closet or in the drawer for a while, depending on the material, will change with time – thanks to humidity and gravity and us not wearing them. So, if you bring an outfit for your session that you used to love but haven’t worn in a while, you might be in for a surprise.
Instead of dealing with these potential “whoops” moments, take the time to try on any and all potential outfits.
The more you have to bring the better, because options are always good, but you don’t want to make the mistake of bringing a lot of things that aren’t right for you. The day of your shoot, you want to feel confident, sexy, on top of the world. So bring those outfits. And if your closet doesn’t bring that va-va-voom you’re looking for, maybe it’s time to go shopping. You never need an excuse to go shopping, but it’s nice to have one. Your upcoming Boudoir session is definitely an excuse.
3. Do Wear Loose Fitting Comfy Clothes to the Boudoir Studio
Skip the bra, skip the socks, skip the watch, and forget that belt, those tight jeans, and anything else which could leave an impression in your skin. It may seem like a small thing, but these lines can dampen the look of a great negligé. Besides, you want to relax and feel confident, and tight clothes are only going to restrict you.
4. Do Book your Appointment Date after Your Monthlies
Nobody wants to ruin a potentially empowering Boudoir session because they’re crabby, cramping, and bloated, Instead, book the week after your period when you’re high energy and feeling normal again. Your boudoir photos will look better with no strings attached, really.
5. Do Drink Plenty of Fluids
Three words: Water. Water. Water. And make sure to avoid alcohol and salt, as these will turn your lovely skin to the texture of potato chips, which just isn’t pretty.
6. Do Rock Clothes that are Right for Your Body
Everybody’s different, and everybody is beautiful. Wear the clothes that you not only feel confident in, but accent your incredible body. If you’re on a thinner side and want some curves, wear brighter colors and horizontal lines, there are so many decadent varieties of bra/panty combos that you’ll want for nothing in your quest for fabulousness.
If you’re on the curvier side and want to add some balance, try super-slimming fishnet stockings. Not certain how to dress your body the right way? Ask your boudoir photographer, they’ll have tons more tips for you as well, as they will know what will look great and what not so great.
7. Don’t Fake Tan
No sprays, no gels, no lotions. If you want a natural sun-kissed glow, and if you’re lucky enough to live in or near L.A. head to the beach, get it the right way (but don’t forget to wear sunscreen, SPF 15 or more, and watch out for those ghastly tan lines!), or, even better, book some sessions in a professional salon that has tanning beds, and do it in the nude (no unsightly lines this way). The last thing you want is to a) look like a sexy pumpkin or b) pay more than you have to in retouching fees.
8. Do Touch Up the Basics
If you dye your hair, get your hair done the week of your Boudoir Session. Shave or wax everything, the day of if possible, and spring for a mani-pedi.You’d be amazed how these little details can make or break a photo session. These pictures are going to be around for a while, reminding you of just how awesome you look, don’t skimp the small stuff.
9. Don’t Think all “Boudoir Photographers” Are Made Equal
Do your research! Take advantage of free consultations, read reviews and testimonials, scour through online galleries and portfolios. Don’t be fooled into thinking that just because someone says they know what they’re doing and they happen to fit the right “price range” that they’re offering a quality experience. This is often a once in a lifetime event, and you should do it the right way. Choose someone who is talented, professional, trustworthy, someone whose style you actually love. And keep in mind that you will usually get exactly what you pay for.
It’s an investment, give it the attention it deserves.
10. Do Relax
It’ll be fun. Promise! If you are still looking for something special for your sweet heart! Come visit Boudoir Los Angeles for the best experience a girl could have
January is a buffer month.
Wedged right between December and February, it is to the year what Sunday is to the week.
It’s a time to rest and to recover from all of the partying, spending, and eating that the last two months consisted of.
It also takes most of the month to get used to writing the new date on all of your documents.
Before you know it, it’s really easy to relax to the point that you forget about what’s to come.
So I’m here to remind you. January, in case you didn’t know, is boudoir month.
Why is January boudoir month, you ask? The answer is simple: Valentine’s Day!
It comes faster than you think (sound familiar?), so it’s important to be prepared well beforehand.
Making January a time to celebrate the boudoir aspect of your life puts you right
on track to having a dreamy, romantic Valentine’s Day already planned. I’m going to tell you how.
Use January to book a boudoir photo shoot. I know, it sounds like shameless self-promotion, but hear me out.
Everything that you need to do to get ready for your session will make your Valentine’s Day (and every day!)
that much more fun and exciting. Plus, your resulting photos will make a great Valentine’s gift–the kind that
keeps giving and giving and giving….you get it.
So now that you’re convinced to book a session, what do you need to do to get ready?
First of all, spend some time thinking about the kind of product you want in the end.
Do you want to look sweet and approachable? Do you want to look dangerous and sultry? What colors do you imagine for yourself?
What kinds of poses do you think you’d feel comfortable doing? Is there a theme or tableau that you’d like to play with?
Secondly, you need to think about the kind of reaction you want and from whom. If the photo shoot is for you
as a display of confidence and power you will choose a different approach than if it’s an anniversary gift (or a super sweet surprise!) for your dear one.
Putting in the time to really consider your options well ahead time will make your boudoir session so much more rewarding.
Let’s say you know the general direction of your shoot by mid-January. It’s time to go shopping!
You have given yourself permission to splurge on something that will get you in the mood for the big day.
Take your time finding the right look. Shop around and don’t be afraid to buy a few different things.
After all, even if you don’t use them in the photos, surely you’ll use them in the boudoir.
Another advantage to starting early is that you might need to account for shipping or tailoring time.
You don’t want to be disappointed on the day of the shoot just because your dream
ensemble hasn’t been delivered yet, nor do you want to be scrambling for a new look.
As for the shoot itself, leave it up to me and my rock star styling team.
We’ll take extra care to make sure your Valentine’s Day gift turns out beautiful and sexy.
As you can see, it’s not called Boudoir Month for nothing. It takes time to give a creative, quality gift.
Preparing a little every week leading up to the shoot has its own benefits.
Setting aside some time for yourself to imagine what you want puts you in the mode of becoming who you want to be.
By the time you give your gift, what you’re truly giving is a beautiful, vulnerable version
of yourself to the love of your life. That’s what Valentine’s Day, as well as boudoir photography, are all about.
If that’s not enough to convince you that January is the perfect
month to celebrate your boudoir self, consider these next two points. First: you don’t have to do it by yourself.
Your Valentine’s Day could be marked by a sensual dual session featuring you and your honey.
Related to that is the second point. It will turn him (and you) on. Simple as that. Celebrating your love can’t get any better!
So don’t wait, contact us now to find out our Valentines day boudoir specials.
Feeling Down? Find Some Sunlight
Turn your face to the sun and let all the shadows fall behind you
Everyone gets it—that lethargic feeling that sinks into our bones, especially in the winter months.
For those in cold, snowy places it’s even worse. It can lead to malnutrition, moodiness, and even depression.
By the middle of January the winter blues are here, but you don’t have to let them stick around.
With a little bit of effort, you can chase them all away.
We all know that getting at least 10 minutes of sunlight every day, especially in the winter months, provides our bodies with much-needed vitamin D. Even if it’s snowing, just being outside is exposing you to the sun’s rays (isn’t science fun?)
It is also proven that those who are exposed to sunlight during the last thirty minutes of sleep wake up in a better mood than those who wake up in the dark.
In L.A. the skies are clear and the sun shines brightly for the better part of the year, yet some of us don’t get out enough to enjoy it.
We shouldn’t take our good fortune for granted.
Take some time in your daily routine to stand outside in a sunny spot to take in the sun’s rays.
And when you do, remember to use protection like a 35-50 SPF sunscreen, especially on your most delicate features such as your face. By adding this dose of extra light into your daily routine, not only are you allowing the sun’s health properties to give your immune system a boost, but its warmth and light will also bring you good vibes. If that’s not a straight shot to happy, I don’t know what is.