Month: November, 2013
We all lead frighteningly busy lives.
We run out the door in the morning with an oversized carafe of coffee, miss meals entirely (who has time to eat?), and don’t return our friends’ phone calls for days. Ok, this may be a bit extreme, but we’ve all had weeks where our to do list is a mile long, there’s no reprieve in sight, and all we want to do is turn off the lights and sleep for a month.
No matter what your present circumstances, and especially if you’re exhausted from the perpetual grind, taking time to recharge can be the key to getting through the day, a way to hold on until that next vacation.
Plus, let’s face it, if your batteries run out, you won’t have the option to not rest, and it might last a lot longer than you would want it to be.
Plus, the more tired you become, the less productive you’ll be, and you’ll find you have even less time than before.
A slippery slope indeed.
Here’s some tips for how to recharge when things are too crazy to deal:
1. Schedule Time for Yourself
We wouldn’t ignore our appointments with clients, and if we schedule an appointment with ourselves, we won’t ignore that either. Don’t have time?
If you schedule it, even if it’s an hour, it will give your mind time to relax and regenerate.
A day may be unreasonable, but an hour, you can afford an hour.
According to leading psychologists, scheduling 30 minutes every day for yourself is enough to help your mind detox from the madness.
So use it to pamper yourself, 30 minutes well spent can make a huge difference.
2. Seek Out Positive People
Take a lunch break and go find a friend, someone you can relax and laugh with.
These interactions will help you feel more like a human being, and not just an automaton who works 24/7.
I cannot stress this enough: regular meditation is the key to maintaining balance in the midst of insanity.
If you feel overwhelmed or at the brink of serious exhaustion, take ten minutes and do nothing but focus on your breathing. Return to center, let everything go, you’ll be
amazed by how empowered you feel afterwards.
4. Get Enough Sleep
This is a tricky one, there are some days where we feel like we can keep pushing it and our body is going to keep doing what it’s told. Some of the greatest “business people” claim to operate on 4-5 hours of sleep per night, and say it proudly. This is nonsense. No one can get away with that for long without feeling the effects on their body.
If your days are packed to the max, make sure your evenings are spent with your head on the pillow.
The amount of sleep needed differs from person to person, but the average is between 7 and 9.
Optimal sleep means you’ll be more alert and more productive throughout the day.
You may think that you’re saving time by sleeping less, but the effects of the loss will catch up to you in a series of sinister ways.
5. Stop Feeling Guilty about Taking Time for You
I’m going to say this. as I say all the time, You Matter. You are not a mere machine expected to crank out products and be everywhere at once. People, despite their typical neediness and lack of courtesy, do not expect that of you, nor should you expect that of yourself. If you feel you need rest, rest.
Some things really can wait. And your health and happiness is far too valuable for you to ignore what your body is telling you.
So when you do get to take time for yourself, enjoy it, you deserve it, don’t feel guilty about it.
Worrying will get in the way of the whole recharge process, which seems just a bit counterproductive, don’t you think?
Have tips of your own that help you recharge in the midst of crazy busyness?
Comment below, we would love to hear your thoughts.
Boudoir Tip of the Week:
Fun with Props
Let’s face it, props can easily ruin a photo, transforming it into something kitschy and horrid in no time at all.
Sometimes things just don’t work, and going with what’s simple and elegant is often all you need.
But, when done well, props can be super fun, a slight pop of color here, and an accented angle there, and they can take a photo from “meh” to “holy wow.” You can encourage your clients to bring in props of their own, but sometimes that backfires, so it could be fun to have some of your own on hand. Here’s a few ideas: • Blankets, throw pillows, rugs:
there’s something seductive about cloth, the way it interacts with skin and instantly upgrade the ambiance of a room
• Accents: Pearls, anything lacy, classic style hats
• Umbrellas, canes, walking stick: for the bold, courageous sort, these props tend to speak defiance and exhibitionism in a delightful way
• “Oh My” objects: handcuffs, scarves, etc.
• Whatever else strikes your fancy Hit up thrift stores and scour Craigslist ads, mix it up and don’t be afraid to try things.
Boudoir photography is an art form, and the work you put into the set is just as important as the quality of your light and the lens you choose. And didn’t I mention props are fun?
“The camera is an instrument that teaches people how to see without a camera.”- Dorothea Lange
One of the strongest women of the early 20th century was not a suffragette, a sweat shop worker, or a single mother trying to make it in lower class urban America.
She was a photographer, and her name was Dorothea Lange.
Born in New Jersey at the end of the 18th century, Dorothea Lange was the daughter of divorce during a time where divorce was taboo, abandoned by her father at 12 years old.
This experience made her independent from a very early age. But this hadn’t been the first major battle she had faced, just five years earlier, Lange contracted Polio, which gave her a limp she would have the rest of her life.
Dorothea was unwilling to be stopped by these obstacles, and would go on to become one of the first women to get a degree in Photography from Columbia University. After she graduated, she moved to San Francisco, started a family, and established a portrait studio in Berkeley.
With the onset of the Great Depression, Lange transitioned from studio portraiture to street photography, intending to capture the myriad nameless faces of suffering which filled the world around her. Ignited with a passion to tell the stories of these people, she and her husband began to travel the country extensively, documenting everything along their way.
Dorothea’s images from the time period are striking in their authenticity.
These snapshots, many of which hang in the nation’s most prominent galleries (including the famous Migrant Mother which is displayed in the Library of Congress), are an invaluable record that give insight into the every day lives of people who would never have had a voice otherwise.
Taking some time to be wild and free!
Stop worrying and just let it be!
My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which never happened. – Michel de Montaigne
It’s a funny thing, worry. It paralyzes us with fear, creating an endless cycle that takes us further and further towards a state of despair. But many of us don’t realize how much grip our anxiety over the things has on our lives.
We live with this constantly, some to more serious degrees than others.
It possesses our minds, afflicts our bodies, and casts a negative blanket over everything.
If you were to write down all the things you were worried about, listing them one by one, and really think about why you’re so worried about them, you might be surprised that some of them lose their potency.
Writing down your worries, like facing your fears, puts them into perspective.
Now, on that same piece of paper, list your joys.
Write down all of the things which light up your world. Compare the lists.
How many things on your list of worries is impacting your list of joys. Would your joys expand if you worried less?
Whether you accept it or not, the answer to that question is yes.
This life is short and it is beautiful, and it shouldn’t be wasted by negativity caused by worry.
Sure, sometimes the world will throw you a curveball and you’ll have to work your way out of difficult situations, but worrying over the things you can’t change/can’t prevent/can’t control will wreck your life, and keep you from enjoying the things you should be enjoying.
Don’t worry about the things that don’t matter, because worry robs you of the joy you rightly deserve.
Fill your life with joy and let the negativity go, and get in with your bad self.
Here are five fun ways to get in a boudoir state of mind.
1.Fantasize about It
Ever wondered why 50 Shades of Grey is still such a bestseller?
If you’ve read it, you probably don’t have to wonder.
If you think about sex, you’ll want to have it. In the same way that seeing an ad on TV for ice cream will make you want ice cream, seeing, reading, fantasizing about sex will ignite the mental pathways that make you want the real deal.
You remember the last time you bought lingerie. You brought it home and slipped it on and it just made you ooze with happiness?
If you don’t know this experience, I highly recommend it.
Slipping into silk just makes you feel sexy, and you’ll be imagining him slipping you out of it in no time.
Light some candles! Turn on the music really loud!
Movement releases endorphins, and endorphins make you happy.
So, if you turn on some music, and dance with that someone you have in mind, odds are it will lead to other forms of movement.
4. Role Play
It’s not for everyone, but it’s really a lot of fun. Arrange beforehand to meet somewhere.
Pretend you are perfect strangers and try to pick each other up.
Even if you’ve known each other for quite a long time, this pretend will trick your brain into thinking it’s the real thing.
It could be anything, as long as you’re both willing to play along in the name of spicing things up.
5.Have more sex
The more sex you have, the more you’ll want to have sex.
Libido is an appetite, and it works like other aspects. Indulge a little more.
If you want to increase your metabolism, eat more little snacks throughout the day instead of huge meals. If you want to want more sex, have more sex.
I know, it might be a surprising idea, but it’s absolutely true.
There’s no greater foreplay than thinking about what happened the night before.