It cannot be –
she said to me,
is not my making.
To keep a part,
two lovers hearts,
is another undertaking.
This might be true–
I said to you,
but it is they
who are mistaken.
For when there is a sun
you’ll find a moon,
can be for forsaken
I think it’s time I start revisiting my archive of images. I wish I had my archives from 10 plus years ago, but many of my old photos and negatives were accidentally thrown away my my dad. Thanks dad, God rest his soul. I will do my best to go as far down the rabbit hole as I can find. I hesitate putting my old work on this blog, as my work 5-10 years ago is not nearly as good as it is today, but I I’m just gonna go for it! Fuck it, it will be fun! I’ll be delivering oldies but goodies now every friday.
I shot these photos 11 years ago. I had just graduated from Brooks Institute of Photography and was working on my commercial portfolio. Yogi Times, a Los Angeles Yoga magazine hired me to do this summer editorial. We shot this up the beautiful Santa Barbara and I really wish I could remember the models name. Oopsy. She was a beauty!!!
Plus Size Boudoir: Tips to Ace an Intimate Session
Body positivity is a wonderful thing.
But there is one aspect the whole movement that kind of throws me off balance. It seems like women around the world denounce a society accepted standard of beauty and they do so out of the frustration that some of them don’t conform to it!
If the plastic gorgeousness and the skinny frame aren’t what the fairer sex is about, then why go through so much of anguish – even if it is well concealed under layers of an almost aggressive stance against aesthetic vacuity – when you don’t find yourself living up to them?
I Have a Different Take on the Whole Issue:
I am not against any body type. I am not against any particular style or fashion. I am not against make-up. I am not against targeted retouching of images.
My main focus is authenticity.
I celebrate exactly what a woman looks like without any judgments. That’s my job. If my client is a 6 feet tall, lithe 20 something, I don’t go “Yay! I snagged myself a diva. This will be easy work”
And if the lady who graces my studio is a plus sized woman, I don’t walk about crestfallen because the images won’t be “traditional boudoir”.
I rejoice in the inner glow of each and every one of my clients. I recognize the fact that they are all divas waiting to find a blank canvas that can capture their intensity, their true personality and their magnetic appeal.
Things I do during a shoot – from the make up to the hair style to the poses – aren’t designed to “hide flaws”. They are geared to bring your personal best to the table enhancing the bounty of beauty that you already possess.
And the result is phenomenal. My work is not to snap pictures. It is to create art that vibrates with authenticity.
My Top Three Tips for Plus Sized Women:
I will call you a “plus sized woman”. Because it is not a tag that derogates you! It describes your uniqueness. It sets you apart from your peers. And it will give your shoot a quality that women who do not possess your curves can’t really claim.
- Choose to work with a shutterbug who has experience shooting plus sized women. The preparations, the drill and even the feel of the sessions take on a different rhythm when a photographer is asked to project a plus sized woman’s persona in clicks. And someone who knows how to do justice to your presence is of paramount importance.
- Put thought into what you would like to expose. This consideration is not for the benefit of others. They might as well not exist. It is to ensure that you are comfortable during the shoot and any inhibitions you may have around appearing a certain way can be slowly worked out over the session. But it is essential for you to put your best foot forward – in your mind.
- Create a mood board of poses that you love. You might have spent time thinking not so positive thoughts about your body. I am not generalizing here – just speaking based on my experience. The shoot is an amazing way to send love and attention its way. Have you always believed your frame is built for vintage boudoir? Have you wanted to be a cougar? Get all the ideas out. And bring them to life with your photographer.
You are beautiful. And it is not a hollow placatory sentiment. You are beautiful because no one else can be just like you. God really broke the mold after he created you. That makes you a limited edition luxury piece. Enjoy the feel.
Boudoir Themes: 4 Ideas to Make Your Shoots Sizzle
Boudoir is an intensely personal experience.
Whenever I work with clients I highly recommend them to do their homework and create vision boards or Pinterest Pin collections of all the looks and elements they would like to bring to their session.
Nothing is off limits you see.
You can be as wild, as demure, as quirky or as magnetic as you want.
There is no “right” way to ace an intimate shoot. As soon as you relax in the settings and feel that urge to explore the poses and the expressions, you are in your sweet spot of authenticity meets fantasy.
Having said that, there are a number of themes women love to visit – time and again. These themes are evergreen, popular and they look sexy as hell.
A must try for any boudoir babe.
Theme #1: The Movie Star
Think Scarlett Johannsson. Think Marilyn Monroe. Think the iconic red soles of Christian Louboutins. The essence of this theme is glamour. Understated and chic! The hair is set in well-coiffed curls. The figure hugging and revealing dresses play peek-a-boo with your assets. The backdrop is either a messy silk coverlet on the big king sized bed or a recliner with the quintessential ornate carvings. Red lips and a haughty pout enhance the immersive experience of being a much desired diva.
I enjoy this kind of a shoot. Given my extensive experience working for high end magazines, I can channel the celebrity vibe in each and every click. Got those coveted Birkins and Guccis? Bring them on sister. This is pampering in frames at its very best.
Theme #2: Aladdin & Jasmine
Perfect for the 18 something limber beauties looking to dip their comely toes in the world of boudoir. With Aladdin and Jasmine you get to showcase your natural loveliness and bring vibrancy to the sessions with liberal splashes of color.
Line up those cushions, slip into cut off harem pants, allow our hair professionals to re-create the signature plait and position yourself beside a traditional long spout pouring jug for clicks that are bound to transport you and your admirers to distant lands and the taste of sweet mint tea.
Theme #3: The Hot Nerd
I personally love the juxtaposition of tech, glasses and garters, a whip, and just about anything…
It is disorienting and as a result extremely interesting.
Messy hair, the oversized shirt tied just above the navel, the geeky glasses, the ruler, the high heels and the blackboard behind.
Have the man in your life wishing he could go back to school.
Theme #4: The Exotic Accessories
Just go all out with this one. Especially if you like to display the quirks in your personality! From the tassels for your nipples, classy pearls, or to the Vegas show girl style feather plumes to the glitter boas teamed with nothing else, this is the choice of the bold woman who experiments with her looks and makes a statement in everything she does.
So, what is your favorite boudoir theme? Give me a shout out ladies.