Home Boudoir Shoots: The Way to Self-Love & Gratitude
“Gratitude is an attitude that always serves you well”
Gratitude or being thankful shouldn’t really be restricted to a day or an event. It should be an ongoing celebration of the good in life so that we can synchronistically call in more of the same.
And what better way to start a practice of daily gratitude than being thankful for your body and yourself?
If “self-love” has always been a battleground for you, I invite you to sample the delights of a boudoir shoot.
What’s that? You aren’t mentally prepared to invest in a pro session yet? Fear not, you can bring the boudoir to well…your boudoir and turn your home into your own personal studio.
And the best part is, your man can be the photographer. He will be surprised alright and if he’s anything like my man, he won’t stop talking about it for months!
Here are my five top tips and recommendations that will make your home boudoir shoot an experience to cherish.
Give Yourself the Pep Talk.
Listen up. The way you see yourself and the way he sees you are two different perspectives that can’t really be compared. When you face the mirror, your eyes automatically seek out the “imperfect”. You have been doing it all your life. But when he sees you, he is so enthralled by what makes you a “woman” that those tiny wrinkles and the sun spots don’t even register on his radar. So don’t hold yourself back. If he loves you, he will love playing with the edgy, sexy and sultry side of yours.
A boudoir shoot is not just about baring skin. It is about baring the soul and being authentic. So the choice of what to drape yourself in is entirely yours. You shouldn’t be apologetic if you want to go with a little red dress that isn’t anywhere near as racy as the shots that are labelled typically boudoir. It is your body and you get to decide what you want to expose.
Take Tips from the Pros
Flattering photography starts with flattering poses. When you spring the surprise on him, he won’t have time to look up boudoir photos or guide you in any way. So you have to do a little bit of homework. Study how lingerie models handle themselves in shoots. What are the angles they prefer? How do they position their hands and do they point their toes and arch their back? This isn’t rocket science. You will get it after the first dozen clicks you peruse.
Lighting is Everything
I won’t launch into the technical details here. Just keep in mind that unless you are adept at make-up, direct overhead illumination should be avoided. Soft diffused light works the best and if you have a window with indirect light, that’s the sweet spot! Natural lighting is the best!
Variety is the Spice
Ask him to shoot a few close ups, a couple of 3/4ths and a bunch of full body clicks for a true boudoir feel.
If you don’t have a DSLR, your iPhone will work just fine. It is the sentiment that counts.
Have the prints developed by a professional. You may even get them touched up if you want to go the distance. And viola, your home to your body and the happiness of being in a loving relationship is ready.
Come on, do accept the challenge. And let me know how it goes.
O Mistress mine,
where are you roaming?
O, stay and hear; your true love’s coming,
That can sing both high and low:
Trip no further, pretty sweeting;
Journeys end in lovers meeting,
Every wise man’s son doth know.
What is love? ‘Tis not hereafter;
Present mirth hath present laughter;
What’s to come is still unsure:
In delay there lies not plenty;
Then, come kiss me, sweet and twenty,
Youth’s a stuff will not endure.
A little poems by one of my favorites –
that decided to go for it!