I am writing this post today to kill two birds with one shot!
I want to give the lovely ladies who diligently subscribe to my content and evangelize my work an idea of how ephemeral and capricious the term ‘beauty’ is. And I also want to provide some basic guidelines to readers on the verge of an eclectic boudoir shoot as to how different looks can be re-created for a ‘Through the Ages’ theme!
Sounds exciting? Let’s dive right in! BuzzFeed’s recent post about ‘Ideal Body Types’ had me thinking hard and this piece is the culmination of my musings! And yeah, if you don’t know what the heck I am rambling on about, this is the video that has caused quite a stir in the market.
THE ROARING TWENTIES:
Bobs and androgyny ruled. It was the age that gave birth to the concept of ‘Pe*** Envy’. Women had just secured the right to vote and they wanted to experience blessed freedom like never before. The sentiment was loud and clear: ‘Why Should Boys Have All the Fun?’
Beauty was a slim toned body and curves were not in fashion. If you wish to re-create the 20s scandalous glamour, get ready to go brazen! Bold flapper style dresses are a must. With plenty of gloss to accentuate that killer pout and kohl accentuated eyes. If you do not want to invest in a bob (and I do advise against it), you can pick up a really luxurious hair piece or even rent one to give your shots that authentic Coco Chanel look. And yes, girdles, girdles, girdles – don’t forget the girdles!
HOLLYWOOD’S GOLDEN ERA:
Ladies around the US woke up from the fast paced haze of the twenties to reclaim their femininity. From the 1930s to the 1950s Marilyn Monroe, Rita Hayworth and Harlow reigned supreme. They were the epitome of ‘chic and class’ and their influence spread far and wide.
Women started cherishing curves again but took care to ensure lithe arms since cleavage display halter tops were big in the fashion circuit and they attracted so much attention to the shoulders.
If you are looking to channel your favorite star of yore make sure you pay special attention to the hair. Soft brushed ringlets and even the peek-a-boo bang are great options. Remember this era stood for an aura of mystery. So props like elbow length gloves and eye masks are not off limits. Go over the top dear! You will enjoy it.
THE POST-FLOWER POWER 70s:
I love this look. It personally intrigues me to no end! The 70s saw the dominance of the flower power movement but the spaced out fashion was tempered with some structure in the form of billowing sleeves, micro minis, the bare washboard mid-riff and colorful floral prints with the first hint of paisley.
Frames slender and tall became the accepted definition of marvelous. With Farah Fawcett style ‘big hair’.
If a boudoir session with some of the 70s glitter and chutzpah is your desire, you are in luck. We are seeing a resurgence of some of the path-breaking trends of the era. Go kinky Afro or traipse in chunky gold jewelry that leaves very little of the imagination.
All is fair!!
THE SUPER MODEL ERA:
The late 80s and the early 90s ushered in the obsession with being fit. The super model era defined minimalism and elegance for whole generations to come. Buxom with a tiny waist, towering height and near perfect hips, Cindy Crawford, Claudia Schiffer and Naomi Campbell wove the dream of cover girl glory and runway excitement for millions of girls all over the world.
These decades lend themselves extremely well to intimate photography sessions. Hoop earrings and charm bracelets paired with permed hair and distressed jeans can elevate your chic quotient sky-high. Just make sure that the sultry, smoldering, haughty look is down pat. That is your most important accessory.
I really hope that my tips have fired your imagination. And reinforced the notion that ‘Beauty Lies in the Eyes of the Beholder’. It is evident that the so-called experts and pundits can’t hold on to a single definition of perfection for even 10 years. And you really do not need to pay heed to their proclamations. Invent your own beauty ladies. And allow a boudoir session to capture it for posterity.
Sometimes I do competitor research. Yup, I am guilty of looking up dry and prosaic statistics about page visits and site rank and the rest of the shebang! A couple of days ago I was perusing through the works and the virtual presence of my peers. And something struck me as repetitive. The word is ‘Life Changing’. Yes, everybody claims a boudoir session is transformative and life altering. I am guilty of this crime as well.
And they do it because intimate photography truly has a way of putting you in touch with your personal power. There is something so empowering about not being ‘judged’. About being in the open battle scars and all! So the use of this adjective is not unwarranted.
But what is missing is a detailed break-down of the ‘How’. How is your boudoir shoot going to spread its influence across other areas of your life?
So I, with my rebel attitude, want to do just that. Demystify the concept so that you and other women have an easier time embracing the experience. After all a session is an investment. And you must know exactly what you will get out of it – over and above the sensual pictures!
YOU WILL UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE ‘PERFECT’
I talk a lot about this because I believe in the injustice of stereotypes so firmly! Because of retouched images being passed as ‘natural’, most of us would like our bodies to be different. Slimmer, fuller or maybe no freckles! A boudoir session takes away the crutch of support systems like granny panties to hide some tummy sag or stockings to mask those stretch marks. You have no option but to present yourself as who you are, not who the world wants you to be. And once you step out of your comfort zone of hiding your supposed flaws, you realize ‘What the f***!! There is no such thing as perfection!’
This leaves you free to take risks, gamble and live a much fuller life than ever before. I don’t have to list the signs for you. The shift will be subtle but intrinsic. There is no way you will miss your change in attitude.
YOU WILL SERVE AS INSPIRATION
Many clients come seeking my services because of referrals from their friends and family. If you choose to share your boudoir experience with other women, you will realize that doubt and anxiety keep so many of them from booking a session and experiencing freedom. You will stand for a bold step taken. You will be the inspiration they need. And the circle of liberation will continue!
YOU WILL HAVE NO REGRETS
Every woman has fantasies. She wants to be powerful, beautiful and magical. An intimate photography session is the perfect way to actualize some of them. In a friendly and safe setting you get to be a movie star capable of inspiring love and lust with a look. Or you are the dangerous Mata Hari who kills with her seductions. It truly is all about you! And once you indulge your whims and fancies, you take that frame of mind to your career and to your social life as well. You literally bloom and at the end of the day, have no regrets.
YOUR FIND YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF
Authentic self sounds ‘woo woo’. But it is a state of being in which you know exactly who you are and take stock of your actual strengths and weaknesses.
A boudoir session facilitates this awakening. As your photographer gently coaxes you to explore emotions and roles you have never tried, you understand what you can accept and what crosses the line. Without society’s false parameters of right and wrong! And it serves you in so many different ways. Trust me!
Most people step into my studio skeptical and walk out changed. Intimate shoots aren’t over-hyped. Somewhere between the 3rd glass of champagne and the 17th shot, you wake up to yourself. And to your self-confidence!
Every morning I look forward to opening my inbox of new inquires! From brides to be who want to sample the joys of a liberating boudoir session and kick off their marriage festivities in earnest by gifting their significant others with candid and provocative gems of intimate photography.
As I usher these women in for their preliminary consultation session, I ponder. ‘Oh how times are a changing.’
Ladies are bolder and more empowered than ever before. They do not wish to dance to the tunes of their man but take over the whole band and turn the heat up by going vintage, classic or extreme.
But there is one question that invariably comes tumbling from the lips of these beautiful women and that is ‘How can I portray ultimate seduction?’ They look at me rather expectantly. Me with a decade of professional glamour photography experience under my belt and they want to hear something exotic. They want me to whisper in their ears that to get their man tripping and flipping, they must bathe in the essential oils of rose and chant incantations to please Venus – the Goddess of Beauty and Love.
Instead they are quite taken aback by the simplicity of my advice, ‘Mix it up. Go naughty and serve it in a blanket of nice!’
WHAT DO I MEAN YOU ASK?
I have shot dozens of boudoir sessions for couples and I have witnessed first-hand the reactions of husbands, boyfriends and fiancés when they are handed over shots of their ladies in poses intimate and beckoning. Though each and every recipient is full with gratitude, excitement and pride…the sessions that successfully bring out the playfulness of the women and contrast it with their demureness, draw the most interest and appreciation.
There is something incredibly sexy about the marriage of worldliness and innocence. Of the peek-a-boo of satin skin! It trumps ‘show all’ any day.
SO THE BIG QUESTION: WHAT ARE SOME OF THE ELEMENTS THAT CAN HELP YOU PERFECT THE ART OF NAUGHTY BOUDOIR?
Most intimate photographers know how to bring out the best in their subjects. Our art is to study human nature and portray it in all its raw appeal. But you can help nudge your boudoir session in the right direction by letting your wish be known. And really putting thought into your naughty boudoir session.
- Ditch the teddy bear! That has been done to death. And thanks to the subconscious connection to the overly sexual moves of every adult performer in the world, it is no longer naughty or nice. It is just plain sordid.
- Give polka dots a shot instead. Sexy transparent lingerie in polka dots can serve to heighten your seduction quotient considerably. Wholesome and clean, polka dots instantly transport us back to our good old childhood days. But don’t worry; your curves will hold his attention in just the right way.
- Pearls are sensual and sophisticated! I love pearls. The color and the texture speak understated chic. Teaming strands of pearls with a particularly provocative pose always does the trick. It hints at things to come. It tells your partner that you may be loving and dependable but you do have the spark of fire inside. Interesting or what?
- Butts are in! And they team naughty with nice with apparent ease. Slip on a pair of baby knickers that complement your perky posterior and look over your shoulder with a hint of ‘Ooops I did it again!’
It is important that in everything you do, your essence shines through. That is what will make your boudoir sojourn a winner.
Here are a few of my favorite halo and high heal shots. This turned out so fun, it’s now in my main slide show and on my twitter page.
Hope to see my divas in my studio soon.
Lots of love!
Bridal boudoir…. a little about one of the favorite kind of intimate photography session that I have with my young and vibrant clients!
I think all my readers know that I did wedding photography – the conventional kind – for a quite a few seasons. The rushing around, the tiredness, the jostling for the perfect angle and obviously the Hors d’oeuvres shoved in my face had me running for cover in a hot second!
As I sip champagne in my cool posh studio, I reminisce about the days gone by and thank my decision to make the transition to the art I pursue now. But the dramatic change in the quality of my life and the feeling of satisfaction with my career are not the only reasons why I am a boudoir evangelist and I advocate a session for every bride to be. The reasons are more fundamental, intangible and well altruistic because bridal intimate photography is truly a once in a life time opportunity!
A BRIDE IS ALWAYS GORGEOUS!
It makes perfect sense. A wedding is the D-day for most women. It is something they dream about and plan for with detail and enthusiasm. And they pay due attention to their own bodies in the process. It is so easy to go over the grooming to-dos with a bride to be. She is primed up for visual coverage and has spent literally hours perfecting her figure, her skin and her hair.
Brides glow! And this glow is enhanced by the deep joy and true happiness she feels inside. It is only fair that they have the expertise of a professional photographer who can capture their gorgeousness with tenderness and truth for all of posterity.
You are at your best beautiful just before your wedding! Capitalize on it and take a peek at what hubby dearest is getting for life.
BRIDAL BOUDOIR UNLEASHES YOUR SEXUALITY
Intimate photography sessions never need to be overtly sexual. They are more ‘now you see it, now you don’t’ instead of in your face and crude. Just go over the images in my gallery if you do not believe me! But the pose, the lingerie and the setting don’t really matter when it comes to the transformation inside. For some ladies an exposed thong may be a bold step in the direction of empowerment and for some women extreme boudoir may not be enough. The real magic happens in the head. When you step out of your comfort zone, you revel in your own glory and start living a regret free, fuller life. This confidence just before marriage can work wonders for your relationship. You take control of who you are – a mature, sensual woman who knows what she wants and how far she is willing to go. In a sense bridal boudoir is a rite of passage. From being a girl to blazing womanhood!
NOT JUST TITILLATION. IT IS A SHOW OF TRUST!
Most brides court my camera with the intention of ‘wowing’ their prospective grooms. But what many women do not realize is the real value of this precious gift. Gifting shots of such intimate candor and vulnerability to your significant other stands for a symbolic throwing down of the guard. It is akin to inviting him into your world and taking the initiative of showing him your authentic self. It is more than anything, a mark of trust. And a promise of beautiful moments shared together over the coming 50 years! Nothing else comes even close. Trust me!
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The path of the modern muse, requires a courage, strength of will, trust in oneself and in everything around around us. Pursuing the muse within brings us into a conscious awareness and in flow with our creative abilities. It brings our uniqueness to light and aligns our true feelings and the truth of our being.
I truly believe creative passion and enthusiasm is at the source of our beings and the only path to true happiness. Every women that walks through my door is a modern muse and I celebrate everyone of them for embracing their true beauty and uniqueness.